REJECTION IS REDIRECTION

 

I know you are feeling frustrated, distressed, sad, depressed, tired and rejected. And on top of it the crisis of the pandemic. The feeling of uncertainty is blanketing us day by day.

But is it necessary to feel so low, feel so tiny about ourselves?

Well, it’s a big No.

Rejection means not getting approval or acceptance. That means we are dependent on perception of our fellow being and not ours. Rejection can come from family, friend or romantic partner which is naturally very painful. Thanks to social media through which we are connected to thousands of people who might end up in not responding to our texts, or ignoring our calls, or turning down our dating profiles which leads to feeling of rejection. This is nothing but an emotional psychology. It is just a brain play and nothing else.

We all have read and heard about the Newton’s third law of motion which states that every action has an equal and opposite reaction. So, if rejection is an action then what is its reaction? The answer is simple.  The harder you fall, the higher you rise.

Success is not built on the foundation of successes. It is always built on failures and rejections.

Jack Ma, co-founder of Alibaba Group, was rejected 30 times. Well, that’s a number. He applied in one of the restaurants along with 22 others. Out of 23 candidates, 22 were selected and guess who was rejected? Yes, you guessed it right, it was Jack Ma and now his success speaks it all.

 

If one getting rejected, it does not mean that he/ she is not worthy of it. If a door is not opening up for you that means that door is not meant for you. The Lord is protecting you from that door, which if you enter, might prove a total mess for you.

It is totally okay to be rejected. It is completely fine to feel the pain, after we all are human beings and it is the emotions that differentiate us from other creatures. But what matters is that what we are learning from that rejection. Every rejection is a milestone in itself. Every rejection makes us feel stronger, makes us feel that we are born different. We have the ability to make the best out of ourselves. It is just a matter of our own perception and attitude towards life.

 

The world focuses on outcomes instead it should focus on the pursuits. 

Mahatma Gandhi was convinced that if we take care of our means end will be taken care of. Means and ends may be compared to the seeds and the tree respectively. Nature of the tree is determined by the nature of seed. A person has full control over its actions, not on its consequences. Gandhi Ji says, “They say means are after all means, I would say means are after all everything”.

 

Rejection becomes painful when we are engrossed in the outcomes neglecting the effort that we put in the whole process. The barometer of success is always measured in relative terms.

Is it fair to measure our success, our efforts, joy with the barometer of others?

You know the answer to this question.

 

So, instead of getting outcome oriented focus on the process, efforts and that would give you happiness and joy. That joy would overpower the pain of rejection. After all rejections are nothing but a redirection, a course correction.

 Believe in yourself. Realize your self-worth, become ambitious enough that you reach a state where rejection is just a word for you and not an emotion.

 And ultimately you will reach where you belong.😊

 Thank You.